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Creating Safe Spaces for Youth

Now more than ever, young people need an environment where they feel seen, heard, and valued. Here are five helpful checklists to use as you build this type of culture into your classroom, community center, or other youth-focused setting.

Trust-building

Build authentic relationships with youth.
Creating connection starts with you, so allow youth to get to know you as a human being in a way that feels comfortable. For example, you can share things about yourself like your favorite hobbies or places to travel. You may also choose to share about your own mental health journey to reduce stigma without sharing triggering details.

Create opportunities for young people to share who they are with you and the group.
For example, youth could bring in food from their culture or share a bit about traditions they practice at home. You can also create opportunities for youth to write about themselves, share their hobbies, and discuss their opinions and interests. This fosters a sense of belonging.

Show Empathy
When young people come to you with their struggles, validate their feelings and actively listen without judgment or dismissing their concerns. Asking them, “How can I help?” or “What do you need in this moment?” are great ways to show that you care and are there to support them.

Be consistent and stay true to your word.
If you say you will do something, even if it seems small to you, make sure to follow through. This teaches young people that they can trust you and that you care about the things they care about. However, if you can’t follow through, be honest. Acknowledge fault, and model for youth how to move forward after making a mistake.

Explain that it's part of your job to make sure that young peoplecare safe and cared for.
Let youth know you are available and open to talking about mental health and other hard topics. It’s also important to let them know that you can help their family find resources if they are having trouble meeting basic needs. Be clear that abuse is never OK, and that you will have to tell others whose job it is to help if a young person is being hurt.

Advocate for young people to get the accommodations they need.
Youth with a mental health condition might not realize that they are eligible for academic accommodations. If you can support them and their caregivers in getting these services in place, this can build trust since they can see that you care about them, their learning, and their well-being.

Trauma-informed Practices

Create a predictable routine for your time together.
This creates a sense of safety and allows young people to feel more at ease.

Build a social-emotional check-in into your routine.
You can do this out loud or at the top of a worksheet. Ask something like, “How are you feeling on a scale from 1-5?” or “If your mood were a color, what would it be and why?”

Provide opportunities for choice when possible.
This may not be realistic to do all the time, but allowing young people to choose between different assignments/activities gives them a greater sense of control and agency in their learning.

Be mindful of curricula or activities that might be triggering.
Provide a trigger/content warning or choose a different activity. If you are covering a triggering topic, you could also reach out to your school counselor/social worker to see if they would be willing to be involved in the lessons. Mindfulness activities can be a helpful tool to use before/after these lessons as well so students have the opportunity to decompress and regulate their emotions.

Emphasize the importance of a growth mindset.
Remind youth that when obstacles get in their way, they are capable of learning and growing. Provide genuine positive feedback to the young people you work with that encourages this mindset.

Create opportunities for young people to provide feedback.
You could have an anonymous suggestion box, online survey, etc. in your classroom or other meeting space. This can help you better meet the needs of the young people you are working with. It also shows that their opinions matter to you.

Try to determine the reasons behind behaviors.
Every behavior communicates a need. Is the student experiencing a difficult time at home? Are they being bullied? Are they feeling hungry, sick, or tired? Try to understand and address the reasons behind the behaviors instead of enforcing punitive measures.

Promoting Peer Support

Provide opportunities for training.
This might look like collaborating with the school nurse, counselor, social worker, or administrators to implement programs or teach support strategies so youth know how to help their friends going through mental health challenges. You could also use resources and curriculum ideas from mental health organizations like Mental Health America and others. Local nonprofits, businesses, or community leaders can also offer resources and educate youth on how to support themselves and their peers.

Organize group discussions about mental health.
Be sure to set the ground rules ahead of time for what and how youth will share. (E.g., one person will speak at a time, we will not share details of a story that could be triggering to others, etc.) For more ideas about how to facilitate these discussions, check out Mental Health America’s Building Classroom Relationships and Culture factsheet and Classroom Activity guides.

Create opportunities for connection and belonging.
This can look like a sports team, gaming club, art club, improv comedy group, etc. Ask young people what kinds of activities they would like to be involved in. These can take place before/after school, during lunch, or maybe it is even possible for you to teach an elective class students can take during the school day based on a topic of interest. 

Supporting Youth in Crisis

Advocate for training.
Encourage administrators to provide school personnel with training on identifying signs of mental health crises and how to support youth in crisis. You could ask for professional development opportunities around this topic and ask your school counselor/social worker for additional resources and support.

Ensure there is clear protocol of what would happen if a young person was in crisis.
For example: Who would they see first, what would happen after they saw this person, etc. This makes the situation less stressful for the young person in crisis and the adults supporting them.

Create support systems within the school community to help youth in crisis access the help they need.
Identify the staff and peers whom the young person in crisis feels connected to and trusts. Work with the young person to find out how they think these people can best support them through this difficult time.

Display crisis resources and information in a visible place for youth to access.
This ensures that if they do not feel comfortable talking with someone they know, they still know what resources are available to them. You can post these crisis resources, a couple of which are listed below:

Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call 988 for support.
Crisis Text-Line: Text HOME to 741741.

Designing the Physical Space

Create a “calm space” or “cool-down corner.”
Designate a place where young people can go to if they are feeling overwhelmed. This space could include:
                                         -Coloring sheets and colored pencils
                                         -Fidget toys, like pop-its or stress balls
                                         -Things that promote movement, like stationary bike pedal that can go under a desk or an inflatable                                                    “wiggle cushion” students can sit on
                                         -Writing prompts that ask questions like: “How are you feeling? Why do you think you are feeling this                                                   way? What do you need to feel better?”

Think about identity and inclusion.
Fill your space with posters, flags, and books that represent the identities of the young people in the room.

Create flexible seating arrangements that provide accessibility.
For example, providing standing desks can support youth with ADHD. Seats located in a place where a young person can see the door and the whole room can support youth with PTSD.

Use lighting that provides a calm atmosphere.
Try using lamps and natural light instead of overhead lighting if possible.

Incorporate student input.
Provide opportunities for young people to take ownership of the design of the space. For example, deciding where to put furniture, who will water the plants, etc.